Sunday, April 06, 2008

all work and no play...

Life is all about priorities, don't you think? Well, that's not all that it's about, obviously, but it sort of is because it's the thing that sorts out all the other stuff that life is about.
It's also about balance. We all need balance in our lives. Balance between work and play; between making money and spending it; between looking after others and looking after ourselves.

For a very long time I have felt that my life lacked balance. I never seemed to have enough time or energy left over for myself after doing all the stuff that I felt I should be doing. It may be that I have a rather over-developed sense of duty.

Lately, though, something seems to have twigged in my brain. I've always said that I can't do everything - and it's true. But whereas before I saw it as a personal shortcoming, I have now finally learned to accept that this is true not just of me, but of everyone, which means I am no longer trying so hard to do everything.
Talk about an epiphany!
I don't even want to think about how much energy I have wasted on stressing about not getting everything done.

This is not to say I've thrown my hands up in defeat. Not at all. I have been working seriously long, hard hours the last few weeks (months? dunno - not counting).
But to balance that out, I have also done some serious amounts of NOTHING, and it's been so good for me.
It does, unfortunately, have the side-effect of making me a tad boring. When one does nothing, there is very little to tell people.

"So what have you been up to lately, Terri?"
"Er, nothing much. You know, working, eating, sleeping..."

Not a great conversation-maker.

Well boo hoo. After working as hard as I have been, I deserve to take a nap on a Saturday afternoon. And a Sunday afternoon. And on Saturday and Sunday mornings, if I feel that way inclined.
Knowing that I deserve this rest, that it gives balance to my life, makes it a lot easier to enjoy the time spent doing nothing without stressing about what I should be doing instead.

The best part is, it turns out the rest of the family are perfectly capable of housework, and of feeding themselves and each other and, most importantly, me :-)
All it took was for me to tell them, "Hey guys, I'm working my ass off and I'm exhausted - I need a little help here."
And I got it.
Fancy that.

So I'm still working hard, but I'm resting hard too.
And in working hard, I'm earning a fair bit of extra money in Overtime. To balance that out, I booked a week away on a Greek island for Hubby and I next month. I made it, I can spend it. See how simple it is?

All that's left now is to figure out where to prioritise some regular blog-time and I'll be set!
I miss you guys.


beadinggalinMS said...

Yeah vacation time. You do deserve it for working hard!

Take all the naps you want. I have figured out they are a great pleasure.

Anonymous said...

We miss you too!

But rest is good.

angel said...

awesome that you're finding some balance- its hella important, especially for an overachiever!!!

LiVEwiRe said...

So let me see if I understand... You asked? And then, you 'got'? Huh. My method is a little different; I don't ask, I secretly hate, I blow up, people avoid me. You think there might be a flaw there? ;) You and I would have THE fastest phone call between two females ever b/c I have the same responses: eat, sleep, work, repeat. Bye, click. Sounds like aside from the exhaustion you are doing very well!

Terri said...

Beads - I do love to nap. And I love to go away on vacation. Now if I could just find a way to get paid to do both, life would be a treat.

Jason - Sometimes I miss me too...!

Angel - There's an overachiever here..?! :-O

LiVewIRe - Yep that last sentence of yours pretty much sums it up. I know that whole routine of yours only too well - it's a hard one to break. It's easy enough to be all happy-smiley when things are running smoothly but when does life ever run smoothly for any length of time? Hence today's migraine but never mind, I will persevere. And Zakynthos awaits.